Meaning of Sadness
We may describe sadness as an emotional pain associated with feelings of disadvantage, loss, despair, grief, helplessness, disappointment and sorrow.
Society’s Quest to Avoid Sadness
As a result of its seemingly negative attributes, society seeks to avoid sadness. Society rather espouses happiness. In “Feeling Bad About Being Sad: The Role of Social Expectancies in Amplifying Negative Mood” by Brock Bastian et al, the authors note that popular culture and television in particular, stress the importance of happiness. They note that meanwhile, commonplace emotional experiences such as sadness, depression or anxiety are pathologized and medicalized. We view these as deviant from the desired norm. As such, everyone wants to be happy and we almost always sweep sadness under the carpet.
Benefits of Sadness
But could sadness be beneficial to our lives? We see the benefits of sadness in its improvement of our judgment, it being a source of motivation and it building empathy.
- Improvement of Judgment
Sadness improves our judgment. According to Joseph Forgas and Steve Hickman in “Five Ways Sadness is Good for You”, people are more likely to make social misjudgments due to biases when they are happy. Christian Jarrett expresses a similar view in “10 Studies that Show the Advantages of Feeling Down”. He notes that you are less gullible when you are feeling down.
Rachel Avrick in “The Surprising Benefits of Sadness”, notes that negative emotions often work to increase focus and critical thinking. Graham Greene in his novel, “A Burnt-Out Case”, supports this view when he states that we become aware of ourselves, the more uncomfortable we are.
Similarly, Ecclesiastes chapter 7 verse 3 of the Good News Bible states that, “Sorrow is better than laughter, it may sadden your face, but it sharpens your understanding.”
- A Source of Motivation
Sadness is also a source of motivation. According to Joseph Forgas and Steve Hickman in the article mentioned above, whereas happiness triggers safety and a familiar situation, a bad mood operates like a mild alarm signal. It thus triggers more effort and motivation to deal with a challenge. They note that those in a negative mood will be more motivated to exert effort to change their unpleasant state. Rachel Avrick, in the above-mentioned article, also notes that sadness leads us to make proactive changes in our lives.
The Nigerian educationist, social critic and visionary, Tai Solarin, expresses a similar view of sadness being a motivating factor for achievement in his new year message in 1964 titled “May Your Road be Rough.” He states that all that is noble and laudable is to be achieved only through difficulties and trials and tears and dangers and that there are no other roads.
The French orientalist, Ernest Renan, states that “Let us remember that sorrow alone is the creator of great things.” Sadness therefore may motivate us to change our circumstances for the better and to achieve and create great things.
- Building of Empathy
Sadness also builds empathy. Christian Jarrett, in the above-mentioned article, states that mild depression may come with enhanced empathy. Sean Grover expresses a similar view in “The Joy of Sadness”. He states that we should learn to honour sadness. According to him, the goal of psychotherapy is not to eliminate uncomfortable feelings but to expand our capacity to feel. He notes that the more we embrace and welcome all our feelings equally, the more attuned we are to others and the world around us.
Joseph Forgas and Steve Hickman, in the above-mentioned article, state that sadness can make you nicer. They note that people in sad moods are more concerned with fairness and pay greater attention to the needs of others. Dinsa Sachan in “The Very Real Benefits of Occasional Sadness”, refers to Brock Bastian, author of “The Other Side of Happiness: Embracing a More Fearless Approach to Living”. She states that Bastian points out that it is during adversity that we connect most closely with people.
These show the benefits of sadness to our lives.
Futility of Avoiding Sadness
Much as society may try to avoid sadness, it is futile to attempt to do so. This is because sadness we require sadness for a balanced life. Sadness is an intrinsic part of life.
- A Balanced Life
We cannot have a balanced life without sadness. According to the Swiss psychiatrist, Carl Jung, “The word ‘happy’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.” Rachel Avrick expresses a similar view in the above-mentioned article that, true happiness cannot be gained without an understanding of sadness.
The Good News Bible in Ecclesiastes chapter 3 verse 4, states that God sets the time for sorrow and the time for joy. He also sets the time for mourning and the time for dancing. Both sadness and happiness are necessary for a balanced life.
- An Intrinsic Part of Life
Sadness is an intrinsic part of life. Tai Solarin, in his above-mentioned New Year Message, states that life, if it is going to be abundant, must have plenty of hills and vales. He notes that it must also have plenty of sunshine and rough weather. Christian Jarrett, in the above-mentioned article, expresses a similar view that, bad moods are part of a meaningful life.
The British philosopher, Alain de Botton, states that “The good life is not one immune to sadness but one in which suffering contributes to our development”.
Graham Greene, in his above-mentioned novel, also expresses that discomfort is a part of life. In a parody of Descartes’ “I think, therefore I am”, he refers to a cabin passenger who writes in his diary, “I feel discomfort, therefore I am alive.”
Embracing Sadness
In view of the benefits of sadness to our lives and the futility of avoiding sadness, are we not better off embracing sadness rather than pushing it away? This is not to espouse deliberately seeking out sadness. This rather concerns doing away with the perception of sadness as a canker to be avoided at all costs.
Dinsa Sachan, in the above-mentioned article, refers to Brock Bastian in “The Other Side of Happiness: Embracing a More Fearless Approach to Living”. She notes that Bastian states that the point is not that we should try to be sadder in life. She notes that according to Bastian, the point is that when we try and avoid sadness, see it as a problem and strive for endless happiness, we are in fact, not very happy. As such, we therefore, cannot enjoy the benefits of true happiness.
To conclude, we will live meaningful and abundant lives when we embrace sadness and its benefits, rather than avoid it.
Shall we salute sadness with fireworks?
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Existence by definition is tragic so sorrow and sadness are inevitable as long as we live. The good thing about the piece is that it may keep people with suicidal tendencies from taking their own lives but Epicurus the Greek philosopher believed that a good life is one that is devoid of sadness and misery. Sadness can also make us despondent and miserable. It tends to nullify the human spirit and takes away our desire to excel most times. I will say that on the periphery there are some positive derivatives from being sad but at its core sadness in my estimation is never a good thing because it’s a function of human vulnerability. Ontology is a balance of opposites so as long as we know happiness we shall also know sorrow but life must be lived with the aim of maximizing joy and happiness. That is the essence of human activity and the foundation of every form of civilisation. The Romantics may have derived artistic inspiration from existential pain but they used their artistry as a vehicle for escape. So once we find ourselves in a state of sorrow the immediate response should be to overcome it with joy and happiness. Personally I believe that a life being lived properly is devoid of sadness and when the time comes for us all to be sad it will serve as a reminder of a certain evil that is intrinsic to the human condition.
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This is a piece that helps the reader to accept the realities of life. Sadness is part of life and so we should embrace it and take advantage of the positives it brings instead of just feeling hopeless under it. In fact, there wouldn’t be anything called happiness without sadness. The two depend on each other for existence. The piece deepens my understanding about why God created everything in pairs; the heavens and the earth (Gen. 1:1), darkness and light (Gen. 1:2-3), seas and land (Gen 1:9-10), male and female (Gen. 1:27) etc and saw all to be good.
May we be strengthened to see what we consider as challenges like sadness as stepping stones to soar higher, to have a more balanced life and to make better judgements in life.
Thanks for sharing, Madam.
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Great piece madam!
Sadness and discomfort have always motivated me to achieve greatness. I applied for further studies out of despair and anguish, and I was awarded a scholarship, which was a thrill. A self-study reveals that I always do better in times of grief and discomfort, even if it is not what I desire or wish for, but life happens. Thank you for encouraging me to keep going.
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There is indeed no doubt, like your piece teaches that sadness, bad emotions or feeling down has some benefits (improve judgment, a source of motivation and building empathy), but the problem is how one feels when he or she is sad. The reason is that these benefits are mostly realised after one has come out or conquered the bad feeling.
How nice it will be if there was another emotion that could teach or pass on all these benefits and more.
Great piece.
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Sadness is not just an emotional pain associated with feelings of disadvantage, loss, despair, grief, helpless, disappointment and sorrow. It is also a bad/negative energy that saps out any glitter of hope found where it abodes. Sadness, of course, is a selfish occupant/tenant and would share space with no other.
When sadness is praised and celebrated ( pity-partying) it takes roots and fully controls the life and soul of its container. At this stage, it births depression which can be as virulent and destructive! It may destroy the life and soul of all who entertain it.
Though an inevitable part of our existence, sadness should not be welcomed and embraced with both hands. And that is why one is encouraged to snap out of it and not give it resident status because like cancer, it ANGUISHLY destroys the life of anything it controls.
Whereas I agree that introspection should be a necessary part of our lives, the article SEEMED to suggest that this cannot be done in a state of happiness. I however do not have to be sad before I can do introspection.
Happiness generates a state of wellbeing and inspires hope. Sadness, on the hand, is a joy killer and a DISSIPATOR of hope. A hopeless life is not worth – living and that is the end game of sadness.
Definitely, sadness needs no praise
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The untold truth – “Sorrow may sadden your face but sharpens your understanding”. Another great piece.
Better to go to the house of mourning than to go to the house of feasting, For that is the end of all men; And the living will take it to heart. Ecclesiastes 7:2
As much as I will like to avoid sadness, it’s inevitable. God even expects his people to be in sackcloth and ashes sometimes.
A very good article.
Thank you very much.
A great digest on sadness. Never viewed sadness from a positive angle. Inspired.
Thanks a lot.
Wow… Another great piece from the author.
Thank you very much.